I'm Dr.Grace.I will give some advice to you about you and your kids.
In the family ,you should take care of your kids every day,you should talk with them about some interesting things ,for example,pop songs ,fashions,famous stars.And you should listen to them carefully when they want to talk to you.You could ask kids to do the chores too.You couldn't help them doing the homework.That is bad for their study.
These are my advice ,I hope that taht can help you in the future